By Spy Uganda
Psychologist and dream expert, Dr. Keith M. T. Hearne, analysed the most common unspoken dreams people admitted to having in a new survey, which has revealed that several people dream about sex regularly. The study showed 15% people of dreamt about sex with someone inappropriate, such as a coworker.
Interesting, 1 in 25 of men have dreamed about being pregnant, whilst one in five have been cheated on, in the poll by bed and mattress specialists, Bed SOS. Dr. Hearne, who conducted the world’s first sleep-lab research into lucid dreams, explained: “Dreams, especially those that wake you suddenly, are probably best understood – not literally – but as symbolic messages, and verbal puns, from your wise unconscious.”
“The emotion left on waking is probably the best indicator of whether the dream portrayed something good or bad,” he added.
He explained that; “Our unconscious is very knowledgeable and is like a friend, guide and protector. It can encourage and prod us if we’re not achieving things it knows we can.” Hearne, said it’s useful to analyse dreams as they often have deeper meanings, and explained the meaning behind the most common sex dreams.
Sex In Dreams
We dream for around two hours each night, and most are actually about mundane things. However, strong emotions sometimes intrude. We can anticipate that the topic of sex, in particular, could be driving these powerful dreams. Of course, many sex dreams simply reflect a wish for sexual gratification, but sometimes they are so illogical – you may really dislike the person (from real life) with whom you are making love in the dream.
This factor, of strangeness, points out that the dream is not about what it seems to be. A switch has occurred. In a relationship a sort of addictive sexual behaviour builds up over time. In fact, it is a powerful activity that promotes emotional and psychological closeness. Should the relationship fail, those features of the initial sexual attraction can’t easily be dropped, and dreams can regress us to earlier times. So it is not unusual for people to experience this dream for a while after a relationship, especially if there is sexual frustration.
Someone Of Same Sex
Sexual orientation is more open to discussion these days, so in some cases these dreams may be developments of those conscious thoughts. But in dreams there is so often a deeper level to consider. The ‘other person of the same sex’ may actually be representative of you, the dreamer. Dreams can provide us with wise insights, such as – are you too self-centred? Or do you need to love yourself more, and build self-confidence? Meditation on the topic of oneself may enable you to attain self-truths.
Dream of Sex With Someone In Public
Some people are highly exhibitionistic, and the dream-world is a safe place for such fantasies, but that superego part of you is more likely to be intervening to warn that you’ve been exposing yourself recklessly about aspects of your life and made yourself vulnerable to social criticism. Nudity is one thing, perhaps revealing a wish to be free, but public sex may indicate a neurotic desire to shock other people – an extreme attention-seeking behaviour.
Dream Of Sex With Someone You Dislike In Reality
Dreams progress along visual and verbal associative pathways, and the overriding law of all dreaming is that what you think you will then dream. What happens here is that the dream’s pathway at some time leads to a dream thought, about the person you dislike. That point acts as a trigger. Feeding on the negative emotion, the dream thought comes into metaphorical play.
Being Cheated On By Your Partner
Sometimes such a dream is indicating to the dreamer that cheating is indeed happening. The subconscious is sensitive to subtle clues (e.g. pheromones) that go unnoticed consciously, and the dream is just about the only channel of communication to the consciousness. But equally, a person who is lacking in trust may project that issue into their relationship. If the dream occurs in each relationship, the cause is more likely to be the latter.
Sex With A Colleague
It is not unusual for human beings to be attracted to each other. In the generally friendly long-term situation of a work-place, little fantasies and flirtations often occur. Most dreams are about our daily lives, and in REM (dreaming) sleep, a main feature is that males have a full erection, and women experience clitoral engorgement, so any friction can trigger such a dream. Freud would have said that a part of our personality (the Id) which seeks basic gratification, would be responsible. In dreams it is safe to happen and can remain unspoken.
Men Dreaming Of Being Pregnant
Sometimes, men can feel great empathy with their partner and even experience symptoms of pregnancy. So in some cases it is a wish-fulfilment dream. Now that the strict bi-polarity concept of the sexes is easing, this kind of dream becomes more comprehensible.
In the symbolic, metaphorical, language of the subconscious, another possibility is that it positively represents some much-loved and developing project (say, a business idea, or a building plan).
Being Naked In Public
The ‘metaphors in motion’ description of dreams often suffices to understand the real meaning. In this case, a feeling of embarrassment and shame probably accurately reveals the essential emotion, and the content symbolically displays the cause of the dream.
The dreamer should focus on what they have done or said to ‘show themselves up’. It may be a rebuke from the unconscious of unacceptable social behaviour.
If, however, the feeling is of exhilaration, it may represent perhaps a new-found sense of freedom.